After my divorce I dated Mormon men в disastrous. Mormonism has a lay clergy, so everyone serves in the Church. We've been going on dates and acting somewhat "couple-ish" for a few months but haven't assigned any labels to our relationship. By those standards, I was a failure, my husband wasn't "good enough" - and my daughter had ambitious real goals that required a lot of time and effort.
I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains. She asked me the other night how it's possible for me to be such a good person when I don't believe in god. She needs to be, and maybe she will get there. As for deciding to marry someone who is not mormon, here is how I made the decision. As far as as race and the priesthood, Mormons still believe the priesthood ban was divinely inspired.
As time has gone by I realized that the opinons of others is not important to me and oddly enough those who did not originally approve have had their hearts and minds changed by the love my husband shows me, our daughter, and the members of my family. In her mind if you never accept the gospel you are denying her eternal exaltation as a God. I don't think you necessarily need to cut ties with her. Don't think your life is going to be all rainbows and great lifestyles.
That is a hard truth. I respect all doctors so much, they go through hell to be where they are and put up with so much stuff at their work too. But the issue of marrying a non-member raises two fundamental problems: That idea seems so contrary to the nature of God. She'll be hoping that you're going to convert and if neither is happy with the other being as they are, you'll find yourself divorced shortly down the road. That grad student better be working that hard if he or she wants to make it. But he feels I need to stick to one career and be content.