I am dating a great guy who happens to be a very brilliant doctor going into residency very soon. I have just found this blog recently that makes me know that I am not alone. I feel your pain people. It did not go well. I have observed in relationships among friends and family inside and outside of the church that holding a temple recommend does not guarantee a strong, happy marriage. Unconditional love, excellent communication, and unwavering support. If I had one thing to add, mixed race marriages are quite similar. Stick around on this sub. He has never said a disparaging word about his mother. Become a Redditor and subscribe to one of thousands of communities.
That said, Mormons have learned to have fun without alcohol and often have to wait until drinkers are well-oiled and loosened up to join in the dopey-ness. To find another job, a more family oriented one, move to another more financially friendly state we are in California and have a fresh start. It sounds like you have found a good one. If you have any questions about Mormonism doctrine or things or other angles on what she says feel free to message me. I was shocked how much the stress, lack of sleep, etc. When you mix cultural groups you increase the difficulty. What you are potentially choosing is certainly not the easiest path. I have recently seen too much of these false promises that people use to make others feel good. I feel unwanted most of the time but I know he tries to make time. These exclusions, dictated by doctrine, hold the potential to create wedges between you, both immediately, and in the long term.
Just trying to make it through the day. It MAY be true that she will not marry him unless he converts. I think the LDS have been vastly over-simplifying that doctrine.
Good luck and best wishes as you head back out into the dating pool. I hate to say it, but if you are serious, go explore her world. Probably, not Mount Meadows level, but be prepared to have to apologize on her behalf a lot.